Monday, November 23, 2015

PACE Center for Girls: Where At-Risk Girls Grow and Change

In elementary school Kalyin was the target of bullying, and by high school, it had taken its toll. Kalyin ran away from home, went to two high schools and dropped out of both.  But at the PACE Center for Girls, a Miami-Dade County Public Schools Alternative Outreach Program for girls ages 11-17, she was transformed.   She became a school leader, won the Department of Juvenile Justice Star Student of the Year award, and has graduated from high school.

Until Kalyin came to PACE, she said, “Nobody seemed to understand what I was going through. Instead of asking me what was wrong and trying to help, people made it seem like I was just a bad kid.”

Like Kalyin, all the girls at PACE face serious challenges. They come from unstable families, are failing in school or have other serious school issues, have health or mental health problems including eating disorders and thoughts of suicide, demonstrate negative attitudes or behavior, and/or have experienced victimization of some sort.  Substantial numbers have histories of arrest, family members in prison or on probation, experience with physical and/or sexual abuse. Seventy-five percent live in poverty or near-poverty.  Every girl accepted to the program is living with at least three of these problems.

And like Kaylin, most do well.  Whereas 79% were failing one or more classes before coming to PACE, 94% improve academically as a result of their PACE experience.  More important, while 31% had criminal involvement before PACE, 92% have no involvement with crime afterwards.[i] At PACE they acquire a positive sense of themselves and their potential, and they gain an appreciation for respect, integrity, excellence, and courage.

How does PACE do it?

The answer begins with the application and intake process.  After carefully reviewing the referral application (which can be submitted by parents, teachers, counselors, probation officers or anyone else who identifies the need), academic records and other documentation, and after interviewing the girl and her family, the staff analyzes her needs and whether they feel they can help her.  They offer placement only to girls who they feel fit well with the current student body and whom they feel they can help.  But while the answer begins with a careful selection process, the key to the program’s success and the core around which every other aspect of the program is built – discipline, counseling, academics and community service -- is its total commitment to positivism.

Even when an applicant is not offered a place, “we never say ‘reject,’” said executive director Sherry Thompson Giordano.  “If we can’t help them, we help them find the program that can help them best.”

Although some girls are referred to PACE by the juvenile justice system, no one can force them to attend.  And in agreeing to take placement at PACE, each girl must buy in to certain conditions: to attend every day, to attend 12 months a year, to respect others, to not disrupt the classroom.  She must agree to The Five P’s:  to be prepared, prompt, patient, productive, and polite.  The girls are held to these standards with a complex system of reminders, positive reinforcement and rewards.

The Five P’s and nine guiding principles are everywhere: signs in every classroom and every office. They’re decaled on the walls of the hall in colors that are designed for calming and learning.

“We iterate, reiterate, and live these values.,”  Sherry said. The staff expect this behavior from the girls, and the girls quickly learn they will receive it from staff in return.  While the staff will not tolerate disrespect, the girls know that every staff member is on their side. Because the school’s values are modeled consistently by the staff, the school environment is comfortable and embracing, unlike many of the girls’ homes.  Before long, PACE feels safe and protective. It’s the place they want to be.  

Good behavior is rewarded and inappropriate behavior recorded on an elaborate system of beads and charms. Every girl carries a “bead sheet,” a card on which teachers note the good behaviors they observe.  At the end of the week, marks on the girls’ bead sheets are tallied, the girls’ behaviors are noted on their records, and the girls receive beads reflecting these good behaviors, which they wear on a necklace they received when they were admitted to the school.  At the end of the month, the girls exchange their beads for charms – 10 beads for one charm.  Every six weeks, they can use these charms as currency at the school “boutique,” where they can purchase cosmetics, jewelry, clothing and accessories.

Girls exchange beads for charms


“The girls try to act as though none of this matters, but it really matters to them. They want as many beads as they can get,” Sherry said. As acquiring the beads becomes competitive, it generates positive self-esteem.

Progress is further noted at “level ceremonies.”  PACE has identified four levels of growth and leadership, reflecting behavior, attendance, punctuality and academic performance. The level ceremonies acknowledge this growth, and other rewards follow:  the opportunity to address community groups or to represent the school at luncheons and breakfasts, for example.


Monthly Level Ceremony


This is not to say that PACE’s positive approach works instantly or flawlessly.  Especially at the beginning of each girl’s time at PACE, compliance with the school’s expectations is less than perfect and on occasion there are major episodes that require police intervention.  But, in the spirit of positivism and the school’s strength based approach, no one talks about punishment.   “We don’t say, ‘you’ve been a bad girl,’” explained Sherry.  Instead it’s “You have other choices you could have made. Let’s talk about why you made the choice you did.” 

This approach acknowledges that in the heat of anger people sometimes do things that they wouldn’t do if they had the time and the composure to think the situation through.  This approach gets the girls to begin to recognize that every choice – good or bad – has consequences – good or bad.  And it helps to teach them how to cope.

In class, if a girl is displaying inappropriate behavior, the teacher will give a verbal warning and a negative mark on the bead sheet.  If this doesn’t work, she will give what PACE calls a “redirect.” The girl is asked to remain in the classroom and to think about what better choice she might have made.  If she gets a second “redirect” the same day, she and teacher discuss her behavior and some better alternatives.  In a third “redirect” that day, the teacher focuses on growth and change.  And on the rare occasion when there is a fourth, the school calls home and the girl is sent home for the rest of that day and the next with a writing assignment to reflect on why she was sent home.   

But, stressed Alexandra, “They don’t put you down.”  Alexandra, who came to PACE after skipping classes, getting suspended, and having a physical altercation with a classmate, credits this positive approach with her ability to control her emotions and improve her grades and attitude.

Supporting all this positive reinforcement is a strong scaffold of counseling. Upon acceptance, each student meets with her counselor to identify her issues and devise a plan to deal with them.  Sara, for example, had trouble controlling her anger, was failing in school, and was dabbling in drugs.  So she worked with a partner organization that provided drug treatment and education.  In weekly sessions, she worked with her counselor on managing her anger.  And her teachers focused on her academic deficits. 

Sometimes parents need counseling, and sometimes they must agree to accept it as a condition of their daughter’s acceptance.  In these cases, PACE makes referrals to partner agencies.

Once a week, the staff gathers to discuss each student’s progress and intercept incipient problems. To the extent that confidentiality allows, counselors help teachers and staff to understand the issues driving each girl’s behavior. Every two weeks the girls meet in “psychosocial groups” to focus on subjects such as health and wellness, grief and sexual exploitation. Once a month, each student and her parents meet with the counselor and teachers to discuss progress.  And once every three months, staff makes a home visit.

Superimposed on this system of counseling and positive reinforcement is a structured school schedule. Girls arrive at school for breakfast at 7:30 a. m. They secure all their personal possessions, including purses and cell phones, in a locked room.  If they are not wearing their school uniform, they borrow uniform clothing from the school. Everyone must be in uniform.

Classes, divided into 90-minute learning blocks, begin at 8:00, with a break for lunch at 11:30 and dismissal at 2:50.  Students take math, science, social studies, English and intensive reading. Students are placed into middle school and high school cohorts with 10-12 students per class, each class separated into three or four learning levels.  Some high school students are working at middle school level, and the teachers are especially adept at managing this.  The math teacher, for example, can teach basic arithmetic and algebra in the same class.  Time in class is set aside to complete “homework” and work on study skills.  Also scheduled into these 90-minute blocks are community service projects and classes in life skills and career readiness.

 “I have never met teachers as nice and understanding as these,” said Emily whose traumatic childhood with a drug-addicted mother and the foster care system left her defiant, truant and on the verge of being expelled from school. “They are [at PACE] because they care about us succeeding.  You do not know how much it means to have so many people who care.”

Sherry Thompson Giordano and PACE girls


PACE is open year round, students are admitted on a rolling basis, and students typically remain at PACE for 15 months before graduating or returning to their home school. They come from the length and breadth of Miami-Dade County usually by public transportation, with passes issued by the school.  As time to leave PACE approaches, the girls work with their counselors on transitioning out and then return once a month to meet with the counselor.  Every three months, the school holds a transition celebration, a reunion of sorts for former students.

Begun in Jacksonville 30 years ago, the PACE concept is now a statewide network of 19 schools. PACE Miami is the newest center, with 70 students, 17 staff and two interns.  Half the school’s annual budget of $1.7 million comes from the Department of Juvenile Justice, 20% from the Department of Education, and the balance from private funding.[ii]  When funds permit, PACE would like to open a second center at the south end of the county.


PACE Center for Girls of Miami
1400 NW 36th Street, Suite 200
Miami, FL 33142
T: 786-254-2460; F: 786-456-4682
Sherry Thompson Giordano, Executive Director


[i] Statistics from PACE Center for Girls 2014 Annual Report

[ii] PACE is currently raffling a seven-day Royal Caribbean cruise as a means of raising funds for the Miami Center. Drawing will take place December 10, 2015.  https://app.etapestry.com/cart/PACECenterforGirls/cart17/index.php

Thursday, October 22, 2015

Planned Parenthood Teen Outreach Program: Shining a Light on Hope and Ambition

When kids have known little more than poverty, drive-by shootings, and the narrow confines of their inner city communities, how do you persuade them that life has rich possibilities?  How do you keep them from short-circuiting their potential by dropping out of school or getting pregnant or both? How do you give them hope and ambition?

One answer is Planned Parenthood’s Teen Outreach Program (TOP®), an opportunity for kids to learn healthy behaviors and life skills, find an adult they can confide in, and encounter opportunities they could never even imagine.  Each of these components plays a critical role, and combined they can be transformative.

At Miami Northwestern Senior High, serving one of South Florida’s poorest and most crime-plagued communities, TOP works within the required Freshman Experience class throughout the school year. Teaching the classes are professional educators, called facilitators, selected in part for their youth and their ability to inspire the trust of their students.  Their mandate is to be non-judgmental, to listen and be open to whatever the students say.   

With honesty and candor each facilitator guides discussions of sensitive, sometimes controversial subjects including sexuality, healthy vs. unhealthy relationships, effective communication, goal setting, decision making, health and hygiene, and more. Lessons are presented creatively, with videos, outside speakers, role playing and other activities.  Each session includes time to reflect on what the students have learned and an opportunity to spell out what they’ve learned in writing.

On one recent Wednesday, the focus was personal values. Class began with the ninth graders working to distinguish between their genuinely held beliefs and messages they receive from family, peers, media, church, and neighborhood.  Do they really believe, that boys are not attracted to smart girls?  That money does not make you happy?  That you can’t love someone else until you love yourself? That boys manipulate you so that you will submit to sex?  

After a discussion of the validity of these messages, it was time to put their money – play money – where their values were, as the facilitators held a “values auction.” Each student received $500 that she could use to buy the values she most highly prized. The bidding was fast and furious as travel, college education, physical fitness, true love, freedom from HIV and STDs and other valued aspects of life came up on the auction block. 

Why did you feel excited about the value you bought, the facilitator asked when the auction was over.  In the ensuing discussion, the students acknowledged that they were willing to pay more for some values than for others, and they came to identify the values that were important to them.  Before the class ended, they spent a few minutes mapping out how they could begin to live their values – working to get good grades, hanging around with the right crowd, staying away from gangs.

In addition to the once-weekly classes, the students with their facilitators complete at least 20 hours of community service.  They research possibilities, identify a need, help design activities and then choose which ones they will participate in. Afterwards they analyze the experience – what happened during the project, the meaning it has, and how might they apply this experience in the future.
Miami Northwestern students attend an anti-bullying summit
The kids have walked for domestic violence and breast cancer awareness, read to younger children, participated in a park clean-up. They have painted a mural for the school, conducted an anti-bullying campaign, made hygiene kits for residents of homeless shelters, shot a film.  Through these project, they venture into unfamiliar environments to help people with unfamiliar needs. They collaborate and cooperate with each other, learn new skills and see that their effort has an impact.  Suddenly, community service takes on a whole new meaning.  Whereas previously community service was what a judge ordered if they got in trouble with the law, they now come to see it as taking ownership of and responsibility for the world around them:  their school, their neighborhood, the larger community.

The program adopted and implemented by Planned Parenthood of South East and North Florida in Miami-Dade and Palm Beach counties comes from the Wyman Center in St. Louis, MO. Now over 30-years old, this nationally replicated program is found to reduce risk of school suspension by 56%, course failure by 60% and pregnancy by 53%. 

Painting a mural at Miami Northwestern
These numbers are evidence based.  Nevertheless a skeptic might reasonably ask:  Given the temptations outside of school, how can this program reduce truancy?  With all the fears and frustrations found in impoverished communities, how can this program discourage delinquent activity?  Given adolescent peer pressure, the boyfriend who says, ‘Make a baby for me,’ the promise of unconditional love, the fantasy of being special and important, how can this program reduce the likelihood that participants will not become pregnant?

Again, each aspect of the program contributes to the answer.     Whereas many of the students are already sexually active, it is in this class that they first separate fact from myth and learn about how women really get pregnant.  They also learn how easy it is to get HIV or an STD, and they are put off. Combine this lesson with others on respect, self-respect, and goal setting, and the instruction is powerful.

Reinforcing the classroom lessons are the community service projects and special events, which open the students’ eyes to new, exciting experiences and opportunities. As the students identify needs, plan projects, and execute their plans, they develop skills, gain a new sense of themselves and what they can accomplish. In turn, ambition, interest in education, and academic achievement all improve.  Suddenly, they see staying in school as a ticket to this tantalizing future.  Getting in trouble with the law appears as an impediment, as does having a baby.  

"Sock It to Breast Cancer
Perhaps the most critical ingredient in the TOP program is the trusted adult.  Although the facilitators are with the students in class only one hour a week, they spend abundant informal time together on the service projects and going to community events. They are available full time in school throughout the academic year. And, when necessary, they give the kids their cell numbers so they can to call or text at night and on weekends.

“The process of building trust with this program is so unique,” said teacher Denise Simmons.    It begins with her non-judgmental approach to sensitive subjects and difficult questions in class.  It continues outside of class with an open invitation to discuss anything and everything, which usually means relationships, drugs, marriage and sex.

 “I don’t talk about these things with my parents,” said ninth grader Keshawnna, who values being able to confide in her TOP facilitator.

Knowing that the facilitators will be honest, thoughtful and candid, the kids share intimate secrets and secret problems. In one instance, teacher Twyla Russell encountered a student who was especially aggressive and outspoken.  In time and after much conversation, Twyla learned the girl had nine siblings, was left to fend for herself most of the time, and felt unloved and resentful.  She needed shoes for ROTC, and Twyla worked with school resources to get them for her.  More important, she needed parenting.  More conversation, and arrangements were made for the girl to live with her godparents, where she received the guidance and attention she needed. With this support, her behavior and grades improved.

In another instance, a student appeared to be overreacting to a class discussion on rape.  In speaking with the girl, Denise learned that she had been raped by her uncle and was now feeling guilty because this man had begun raping his daughter.  Denise notified the proper authorities, the girl is receiving trauma counseling, and now she sees how she can help others.

At Miami Northwestern Senior High, four full-time facilitators teach 10 classes, with no more than 25 students per facilitator.  In addition TOP operates as a once weekly extracurricular middle school activity at two Miami Northwestern feeder schools, Brownsville Middle School and Charles Drew K-8, where two facilitators run both groups. A program director rounds out the staff. All told an estimated 450 Miami-Dade County students experience this extraordinary program, now in its seventh year. 

For four years TOP has also been operating in Palm Beach County, where a staff of seven runs the program ad 10 schools serving 650 students. Budget in Palm Beach County is $400,000 and derives from several national and local sources.

In Miami-Dade, the $300,000 budget comes principally from the Hiram Brown Foundation. With additional funds Planned Parenthood could launch this invaluable program at additional schools.

Teen Outreach Program
Planned Parenthood of South, East and North Florida
7900 NW 27 Avenue,
Miami, FL 33147
P: 789-505-4866   F: 786-517-6138
www.ppsenfl.org

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Brains and Beauty Girls Club: Shaping Unruly Girls into Responsible, Self-Respecting Young Ladies

Kofo Odediran knows something about self-loathing.  In high school, she had no friends, no self-esteem. “I felt like the bottom of one shoe,” she said, and attempted suicide more than once. Now a vivacious, self-assured 37-year-old, she vividly remembers the pain she felt as a teen.  It is this memory that fuels her passion: empowering young girls to deal with the peer pressure, social challenges and educational stressors almost every child and adolescent face.  Her vehicle is the Brains and Beauty Girls Club (B. a. B.), an after-school organization for elementary, middle and high school girls that fosters good grades, nurtures good moral character, emphasizes inward and outward beauty, and works to create well-rounded, well-behaved young ladies.

Indeed, the club is transformative. At the outset the girls are giggly, immature and insecure. They commonly act out, get into fights, disrupt their classes, cause a ruckus in the cafeteria. Well before year’s end, however, they grow into disciplined, responsible, self-respecting young ladies.

This was boldly apparent at Biscayne Gardens Elementary School one Wednesday afternoon in April.  As the third, fourth and fifth graders meandered in for their weekly meeting, each said, “Good afternoon, Ms. K.”  The girls chatted until Ms. K was ready to begin.  The instant she called the group to order, they were silent.  They watched her intently as she explained the day’s activity: crafting a business plan for an imaginary company. Hands flew up to answer the questions she posed. When the girls momentarily lost focus, Ms. K instantaneously brought them back with a well-practiced two-line chant that she began and they completed in perfect unison.
Biscayne Gardens Elementary School students explain "Dynamic Divas," the dance studio they are planning

For the day’s project, Ms. K divided the girls into groups of three or four, gave each a list of questions to answer and points to consider.  And when it came time for each group to present their plans, they stood at the head of the room and spoke clearly with poise and self-control.

Every aspect of the B. a. B experience and everything that Ms. K does is designed to achieve these results.  It begins with the application process, which includes an essay on why each girl wants to belong and, for the high school girls, an interview. It continues with the rules and regulations, which spell out expectations for behavior and academic performance. Parents, who must sign the application, and students, who must sign the rules and regulations, know their membership is threatened if they get any D’s or F’s in coursework or conduct or if they engage in fighting, foul language, vandalism, skipping class, bullying, or disrespectful behavior toward adults.

The message is clear: This is an exclusive club. Belonging is a privilege and an honor.  Attendance at meetings is required. Standards are high.  

From the moment the girls join, they experience Ms. K’s specific demands.  They must wear their uniforms to B. a. B. meetings: for elementary and middle school girls a navy skirt, white short-sleeved blouse, black socks, purple scarf and purple hair ribbon, all supplied at the beginning of the school year. High school girls swap stockings for socks, a pencil skirt for the full skirt, and a neck tie for the scarf.  Everyone also has a purple B. a. B. polo shirt, which they wear on Fridays (or another day of the club’s choosing) and for B. a. B. outings

“The uniform teaches responsibility.  They are responsible for all the pieces of the uniform and for wearing it correctly. Why isn’t your shirt tucked in?  Why isn’t your scarf tied?  Where is your hair ribbon?” said Ms. K.  And, she added, they’re not allowed to wear pants.

“The way you sit in a skirt and the way you carry yourself in a skirt is quite different than when you’re in pants. The days they dress up and feel pretty, it makes you feel good about yourself and you carry yourself differently, you feel different.  Just knowing there are different attires for different occasions. We try to teach something with everything we do.”

The girls, who see the uniforms as a symbol of status, wear them with pride.  One third grader spoke for many when she said, “It’s hot and itchy but it makes you look pretty. I like it.”

With the uniform, the girls also get a purple bag containing a mirror and a hygiene kit including a bar of soap, a wash cloth and deodorant. They are told to keep this kit in their book bags for an emergency “so that throughout the day you keep up with your appearance, you keep up with yourself,” said Ms. K, who takes the opportunity to teach her girls what many should but do not learn at home.

“A lot of our parents are working parents. A lot of our parents don’t have time. A lot of our parents are young parents, and they just don’t have the time to teach those basics. So here’s a program that takes us back to the basics. We sit at the table properly. We walk, we don’t drag our feet, we address people accordingly, things like that,” she added.

Appearance and behavior that are honed in the club are expected and reinforced throughout the day.  Teachers, security guards, cafeteria workers, even custodians stop a girl behaving inappropriately and admonish, “Aren’t you in B. a. B.?  Isn’t that bad behavior?”   As everyone in the school networks together to reinforce the message of the club, the girls see a consistency to the expectations, and over time complaints about their behavior diminish.

Good behavior gets a boost from the girls’ growing self-esteem and self-confidence. Recognizing their beauty inside and out is a major focus. Every meeting begins and ends with chants that reinforce a strong sense of self:

When I look in the mirror what do I see
Someone special, me.

Building self-appreciation was the purpose of the Valentine’s Day program, when the girls anonymously wrote down what they liked about each other.  Later the girls read aloud the nice things that had been said about them and celebrated their good feelings with Valentine’s treats.

Strengthening self-confidence is the intent behind the club’s big sister, little sister concept. Everyone in elementary school, middle school and high school is paired with an older member of her club.  When an elementary school student gets to the middle school, there is at least one older person whom she knows. The same goes for the middle schooler moving up to high school.  Knowing this one person helps her feel secure and important in a large, foreign-feeling place. This year, when all the clubs got together for occasional field trips, elementary school students also got a big sister in high school and had the opportunity to hang out with her.  
 
Processional for the Middle and high school students entering the Presentation Luncheon.  This is the culmination of the club's year, where each group showcases an original song, poem or dance.   iddle and high school members enter the event.
Enhancing the students’ education is also central to the club.  Each week, the meeting focuses on a specific subject: the environment, money management, bullying and cyberbullying, abstinence and age-appropriate sex education, giving back, and more. Ms. K emphasizes sharp, critical thinking.  When a student offering an opinion or answering a question is not clear, Ms. K challenges the statement forcing the student to explain, clarify or admit she doesn’t know.   Ms. K also puts a premium on classroom performance. Students know that if their grades are poor they will be placed on 4-week probation, during which they must still come to meetings but cannot participate in field trips or other special events.  Ms. K reviews every student’s progress reports, meets with parents as needed, tries to find tutors for those who would benefit. At present, she is seeking funding specifically to underwrite tutoring.

All of this consistent effort produces enormous growth in the girls at every level. Shy girls, loners, and those with low self-esteem find a place to fit in.  Having “sisters,” being in a group where they belong, feeling included all help the girls to improve.   Although this growth is a work in progress – uniform blouses are sometimes rumpled; being rude to teachers is a perennial problem at every level --  growth is palpable.  In elementary school, giggly, immature behavior gives way to an affect of calm and discipline.  In middle school, improvement in hygiene is significant; also noticeably better are behavior and self-confidence.  In high school, the girls learn to keep a surly attitude in check, to show deference to their teachers and other adults, and to stay on track academically.


B. a. B. began four years ago with 40 eighth graders. This year they are high school seniors.  Although all did not remain in the club throughout, all are graduating.  One of the girls had a baby and is working but still managed to graduate on time.  And all are going to college. 

B. a. B. is a project of Communities in Schools, an organization that brings community resources into public schools.  Ms. K launched the after-school club at JFK Middle School in 2011. With the support of Communities in Schools, a second group leader placed the club in Miami Senior High School in 2012. Today, with the addition of two volunteer group leaders, six schools participate, each with 25-40 girls meeting for one hour once a week throughout the school year. The program operates in two elementary, two middle and two high schools in some of the poorest sections of Miami. 
 
B. a. B. girls from Biscayne Gardens Elementary perform "Say Yes" at the Presentation Luncheon May 29, 2015
The club runs on a shoestring budget.  Salaries of the two paid group leaders are underwritten by Community in Schools.  In addition, a $5,000 grant from the Women’s Fund of Miami Dade covers snacks, field trip expenses, and cost of the end-of-year Presentation Luncheon.  Supplies for weekly meetings and incidentals are provided by the participating schools, by Communities in Schools and by parents and Ms. K herself.  Students are asked to pay $40 for their uniforms, and scholarships subsidize those who cannot afford it.  Each student also pays $1.00 at each meeting, in part as a gesture of commitment, in part to help pay for on-site activities such as birthday celebrations.

Brains and Beauty Girls Club
786-344-3237

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Glory House: Restoring Survivors of Human Sex Trafficking to Wholeness

Melissa was 16 and on her way to McDonalds when another teen approached her and invited her to a party.  Sure, Melissa said, and the girl led her to her “boyfriend’s” car.  He was no “boyfriend,” however, and when Melissa entered that car, she climbed into a trap of sexual exploitation that would keep her enslaved for ten years.

Melissa was one of over 100,000 girls, average age 14, lured into human sex trafficking in the United States every year.  Like Melissa, they are forced to have sex as often as 20- 48 times a day. (Source: Polaris Project)  Governed by fear and intimidation, they lose the ability to trust.  They traverse adolescence, and possibly early womanhood as well, deprived of normal social interaction and any semblance of self-determination. They are robbed of schooling and the ability to learn everyday life skills. As Melissa put it, “ I didn't know anything that had to do with the real world, like paying bills or saving money or how to go back to school or how to manage time.  Things that people would think are just so normal. But for me they weren't normal at all. I actually had to learn them.”

And so Melissa has come to Glory House, a healing environment in Miami, Florida,  where 18-25-year-old female survivors of sex trafficking can become wholly restored. They come referred from sex trafficking rescue organizations such as There is Hope for Me and the Life of Freedom Center and from Miami-Dade County's Coordinated Victim Assistance Center.  Through Glory House, which is partially modeled on Wellspring Living in Atlanta, they receive all the care and services they need to recover physically, emotionally and spiritually. 

Executive Director Betty Lara explains: “The abuse has been so severe -- some of the women had been taken when they were 13 years old – that it was a whole chunk of their lives.  Five or six years. They need therapy. Massive. A lot of therapy.”

And so they receive individual and group therapy.  They receive dental care and the care of a physician for sexually transmitted diseases, screening for HIV/AIDS, and routine medical checkups. They earn their GED and acquire the job skills they need to be self-sufficient. They establish a vocation, work and save money for an apartment and other necessities when they leave. And they are offered spirituality for the hope, strength and healing that Glory House believes comes with faith.

Dominant in the concept of Glory House is mentorship, an informal one-on-one relationship between a survivor and a trained volunteer whose personalities and interests are compatible. Volunteers attend a ten-week course using the international Hands That Heal curriculum to learn about the unique needs of survivors and the challenges of this particular brand of caregiving.  Once matched with a survivor, the mentor becomes a resource for everyday advice and assistance.  The mentor takes her survivor on errands, helps her with everyday tasks like writing checks, and functions as an informal life coach, providing advice on mundane things like what clothes to wear for a given occasion to more significant questions like how to conceptualize a monthly budget.  Often a mentor will call her survivor with, say, an invitation to the mall. Over time, with repeated, steady interaction, a trusted friendship blooms.

With this multifaceted program, survivors heal, grow, and acquire the confidence they need to move forward.

Melissa’s evolution is a case in point.  Melissa’s slavery came to an end when her pimp was arrested and she found herself in jail as well.     Now 28-years-old and out of jail for two years, Melissa  has recently completed the second of four parts of her GED.  Having learned gardening through a program associated with her prison experience, Melissa  works at a nursery creating organic vegetable gardens and selling the produce at a farmers market. Financially independent, she shares an apartment with a friend and, with the help of Glory House, has been reunited with her son.

Melissa credits Glory House with providing the mentor that taught all the things that, she says, “people would think are just so normal, but for me they weren't normal at all.” But of all the components of the Glory House program, she finds the spiritual most helpful.  “It’s the only thing that got me through,” she says.   

While Christian spirituality is central to Glory House, the program welcomes women from all walks of life and offers them the freedom not to embrace Christianity. Executive Director Betty Lara is quick to emphasize that bible study and prayer circle are opportunities, not requirements.  To force religious activities on survivors, she says, is to rob them of their independence and self-determination, the very antithesis of what Glory House is all about.  And so in mentor training class, she asserts, “Don’t push anything on anyone.”

But Betty herself is a woman of enormous faith.   “Build it and they will come,” she says.  Indeed, since Glory House was founded in 2011, donated help has come from every direction:  website design, office space, accounting and legal services, grant research and grant proposal preparation, professional fundraising services.  Fundraisers are staffed by volunteers.  Event sites and refreshments are donated.  In eight months during 2014, Glory House raised $80,000. With a steady stream of fundraisers planned for 2015, the year's goal is $300-400,000.    Betty believes the organization will be given a house within a year.

The dream – the plan -- is for a secure residence (address unpublished) with  two round-the-clock caregivers and one full-time house mother as well as a dedicated psychologist. The house will accommodate up to eight residents for one to two years.  

"After meeting with other organizations that have worked in this field for years we realized that the survivors need their own room and privacy (vs. 2 to a room as originally planned) and this limits the amount of people that can be accommodated in one house. Finally, Glory House wished to maintain a home atmosphere versus an institutional one," board member Leonor Alvarez stated in an email.

Psychological help, group therapy, medical help, educational help and life coaching will be offered in-house.

At present, Glory House provides housing for four women, one in a hotel, one in an apartment and two in homeless shelters as well as mentoring for seven through community liaisons. They receive care and support through Glory House’s close partnership with the Miami-Dade County Coordinated Victim Assistance Center, which offers a wide range of services from legal assistance to yoga classes and many in between.

Glory House is a 501 (c) (3) not-for-profit organization and runs an annual budget of $500,000 including private donations and in-kind contributions.Their only major expense is the executive director’s salary: $22,000 a year.   In addition to monetary donations, Glory House particularly needs IT assistance and liability insurance. And a house.

Glory House
PO Box 43073
786-286-9958
South Miami, FL 33143